There is a lot of hype (and hope)
Valentine's Day-- the day of love and
almost everyone else we're on it.
to having and creating a great
celebration for the two of us.
Whether you are in an intimate
with the love of your life or not,
there can be a lot
of expectations that never pan out or
be a feeling of closeness and love with
in your life.
Whatever your current relationship
suggest something a little different
We suggest that you go beyond your edge
and here's what we mean...
We all have our "groove" that just
comfortable, no matter what we are
doing. This is especially true in the love and romance
department but is in all phases of our lives.
Our "edge" is the very point where a
mystery begins--something out of the
that we may not normally do.
When we go to this "edge" and beyond,
we can feel expanded, more alive, have more passion for life
and feel more love.
Here's a great example of what we
One of the Valentine's Day gift
we've seen in media ads is giving a
from a local spa. While this might be a
is much-appreciated, what may be even
appreciated and going beyond your edge
actually giving each other a loving
and sharing touch.
Felicia and Al lead busy lives. They
full-time jobs and they have 3
children whom they adore. Felicia
little league and Al prides himself on
garden and yard.
When they do slow down and share touch,
usually for lovemaking. One weekend,
Al arranged for a babysitter and
by taking her to a couple's massage
where they learned how to give each
and back rubs. They've promised each
massages at least once a week as an
way to connect.
Do you have to take a class to learn
Of course not (but it may be a fun
The two of you can just plop on the
your attention on each other (no
music would be great), and get your
moving in a loving way that may or may
be headed toward love-making.
If touch always leads to love-making,
something a little different. Just
partner with the intention to connect
Touching each other often may be going
beyond your edge. It might be a caress of the shoulders as
you walk by him or her doing the dishes. It might be that
you hold hands when out shopping together or at a movie.
If you are currently not in an intimate
touch is just as important--so give
are close to a hug or even trade
We invite you to come up with your own
of what it might mean to go beyond your
edge. Here are some other suggestions
get you started...
1. Try a new restaurant or new foods.
If you always go to the same type of
try sampling different kinds of
foods--or even a
different dessert. Go with a friend or
and share the new experience.
Susie and a friend tried Korean food
first time a few months ago and had a
wonderful time sharing a new taste
2. Wear something a little different
might normally wear.
It might be a little beyond your edge
a piece of clothing of a different
color than you
normally wear or a different style.
We're not saying you have to visit
Secret but we are saying to play with
expanding who your clothes say you are.
3. Explore ways to expand and deepen
making and intimacy.
Allow yourself to explore books and
other resources that teach new ways to be intimate with your
love. There are many available that are tasteful and that
can give you some good ideas about going just a little
beyond your edge.
It might be something as simple as
deeply instead of your normal peck on
the lips. You
might even dedicate an hour to just
keep it interesting!
Be sure to talk with your partner about
like when it comes to this exploration
and listen to
what he or she likes.
4. Open up to someone who you normally
Talk to your partner, a friend, a
family member or
someone else in your life in a way that
not normally do.
You might share something personal
yourself that you normally don't share
might show someone how much you
him or her being in your life.
If this isn't "normal" for you, sharing
about yourself and showing appreciation can be powerful ways
to go beyond your edge to create deeper connections with
This week, we invite you to go beyond
create deeper relationships with others
a little more love in the world.