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"Instant Relationship Breakthroughs" pt.1
by Susie and Otto Collins

Some people believe that change takes a very long time to happen.

These people believe that if you want to improve something or
change something in your life that you peck away at it and eventually
you'll have want you want.

It's been our experience that change happens in two ways:

1. Yes, it can take a long time to happen or

2. You can do things to create what we call "Instant Breakthroughs."

You can create these "instant breakthroughs" in any area of your life
if you're open to them and since our focus in this newsletter is
relationships-- the big question is...

How do you create "instant breakthroughs" in your relationships?

Before we give you some ideas on how to do this, let us first tell
you what "instant relationship breakthroughs" are...

An instant relationship breakthrough is one moment when one or
both of you in the relationship make a shift to do, say or act
differently and there's an opening, a sense of understanding or
feeling of connection and communion in the relationship that
wasn't there previously.

If your intention is to create these breakthroughs, then you will
create the type of relationships that you want and have more love,
passion, intimacy and connection.

To give you an idea of what we're talking about, here are a few
"Instant Relationship Breakthroughs" that you can begin practicing
right now to make your relationships even better...

Instant Relationship Breakthrough Idea #1

~Be proactive and responsible in creating your life the way you want

If you don't have the love you want (or anything else), you're the
one who is blocking it.

Think about your garden hose. What happens when it gets a
major kink in it? The water doesn't flow past the kink. It's shut
off until you remove the kink. That's the way we believe that it is
with us in our lives. When we block our natural radiance, we block
what we want from coming to us. We can choose to allow our life
force to flow or not allow it to flow. It's our choice.

Some of you at this point might be arguing with us and saying "I'm
not blocking it. It's because of __________ (you fill in the blank)
that I don't have exactly what I want in my life." Any time that you
don't accept that you are the one blocking the flow of love, then you
are not allowing yourself to be responsible and to begin creating the
life and relationships that you want.

We all have places in our lives where we can step up to the plate, so
to speak, and take responsibility for turning our lives around--for
making small or big changes that will make our lives and the lives of
those we come in contact with better.

Today, ask yourself these questions-
1. "How have I put up walls and barriers to having the love and
relationships that I think I want?"

2. "What mental shifts can I make to let go of the walls and
barriers that I've created that prevent me from having what I

Instant Relationship Breakthrough Idea #2

~The power of making completions that have kept you from moving
forward in your life and relationships.

Most of us have an awareness of things that have been left unsaid
that needed to be said or things that needed to be done that weren't
done. If you need to do a completion about anyone or anything in
your life, it can be a breakthrough moment for you and the other

Cathy took one of our courses and told us later that she had made two
completions that by doing them, she was moving forward to having what
she wanted in her life. She returned all of one man's things that
were left at her house, including a computer, several months after
they had broken their relationship and also she decided to break it
off with a married man she'd been seeing every now and then for

These things from a former lover and the relationship that wasn't  going
anywhere were holding her back from being with someone who could love
her the way she wanted to be loved.

Completions aren't always as dramatic as Cathy's but they always free
up energy for something more wonderful and powerful in our lives.

On television the other day, we saw an interview with a couple who
had been married 40 years. When asked how they kept their spark, they
said that they never go to bed mad at each other. That's a great example
of a completion--of not allowing resentments to build--of saying unsaid
words that may be getting in the way of a great connection with a

We all have ways we can make completions in our lives that will free
up energy so that we can have what we want. Anything left unsaid is
an incompletion. Challenges or problems in the bedroom or around sex
are almost always about unspoken truths, withheld emotions and

Today, ask yourself these questions...

1. "What is one completion that I've needed to make with someone or

2. "What's one small action that I can take to start this completion


Susie and Otto Collins are married, life partners who are Relationship and Life Success Coaches, and authors of several books on relationships, including "Should You Stay or Should You Go?" "No More Jealousy" "Creating Relationship Trust" "Communication Magic" and "Attracting Your Perfect Partner." In addition to having a great relationship, they regularly write, speak and conduct seminars on love, relationships and personal growth. To read more free articles like this or to sign up for their free online relationship tips newsletter visit or

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