Making Tips and Passion Secrets
Turn Up the
Heat in Your Marriage or Love Relationship in 5 Easy Steps
By Susie and Otto Collins
You may secretly wish that
your love relationship was as close and loving as it used to be.
Many people in long-standing married or committed relationships feel
this way. There might be separation or disconnection between you,
and the way you look at each other has changed. It is likely that a
lot of friendship and cooperation still exists between you, but the
passion has dimmed or even died throughout the years.
If this is the case for you,
we have good news! You can rekindle passion that has died. With some
refocusing and looking at your partner with a new vision, it is
possible. And, believe it or not, it starts outside of the bedroom.
If you don't know how to
start to turn up the heat and put more life and love back into your
relationship, here are 5 easy steps to try...
1. Never go to bed angry.
It may be trite, but it's true: Of the couples we talk with who
have been married 30, 40, even 50 years, this is the most frequent
advice we hear. When something comes up between the two of you, take
the time to talk it out.
2. Be generous with
heart-felt compliments and gratitude. Sincere compliments and thanks
can help draw you and your partner closer and make you both feel
uplifted. Too often compliments or words of thanks are followed by
criticism. If this is a habit for you, stop doing it.
3. Don't stop exploring
each other. Even if you have been together for many years, you can
always learn something new about your partner. Don't assume that you
know everything there is to know about him or her.
4. Be kind. It is amazing
to notice that many couples say they love each other and then treat
the other person unkindly. Using loving words and consideration are
two ways to be kind. No matter how many years you have been
together, treat each other as you would treat someone of huge
importance to you.
5. Open your heart to your
partner, no matter how busy or tired you are. Taking the time to
listen and understand your partner is part of opening your heart.
Not making assumptions and sharing what is important to you with
your partner are other ways to open your heart.
These 5 easy steps are
examples of practices that help bring us closer, make each day
special together and keep our relationship alive, passionate and
filled with love.
Love is a choice that we
open up to in every moment. Where you place your attention is always
a choice you make. We hope that you'll join us by choosing love more
of the time.
Susie and Otto Collins are
Relationship Coaches and authors who help people create lives that
are filled with more passion, love and connection. For more tips on
turning up the heat in your love relationship, sign up for their
free mini-course at