Making Tips and Passion Secrets
Amp Up Passion
in Your Love Relationship or Marriage
By Susie and Otto Collins
When you think of passion in your love relationship or marriage, you
might have several of the following words pop into your mind...
Not for a long, long time
My partner is not open
No time because of the kids
At our ages?!
For countless couples, the passion surges and peaks as you fall in
love and then for awhile after getting married or settling into a
committed relationship together.
Then, unfortunately, the sense of excitement can fade. You might
wistfully remember those happy butterflies in your stomach when you
used to share passionate kisses, but nowadays, you're lucky to fit
lovemaking a couple of times a month (or less).
Let's face it.
We all get busy. Our families grow and our lives become more
complicated as we get older. This is part of "growing up" and "being
responsible" is what we tend to believe.
In the midst of the busy-ness and life's demands, passionate
connecting time with your mate can become less and less of a
We believe-- and know from our relationship-- that it doesn't have
to be this way!
You can rekindle the passion in your relationship and continue to be
the "mature" and "responsible" person that you want to be.
It all starts when you decide that passion is important.
In fact, when you create time for passionate connecting with your
partner, you may find yourself becoming more successful and engaged
in other areas of your life as well.
That sense of being fully alive can easily carry over with positive
Here are a few ideas to get started re-sparking passion in your
*Let yourself get carried away.
Too many times, we dampen our enthusiasm for a situation (or a
person), in part because somewhere along the way we've been taught
that to be reserved is the way to be. You may worry about coming off
We say, throw those beliefs out the window!
If you feel any excitement or eagerness at all in a moment you are
sharing with your mate, let it build and even take you over.
Whether you are making love, walking through the park holding hands
or having a close conversation, make the most of the connection that
Laugh with abandon, dance, sing and have fun whenever and wherever
These can all help you re-ignite passion and keep it hot.
Be sure to ask and then listen with openness and honesty to what
your partner would like to do to make your relationship passionate
Just because you perceive your partner to not be romantic or
passionate, don't assume that he or she will be closed to an idea
that you have.
You might agree to have at least one experimental date night each
month. This means that the two of you will do something completely
out of the ordinary for you.
It may involve going roller skating together or dancing at a club
instead of your usual dinner and movie. It might also mean that you
agree to try new lovemaking positions.
Make sure that you are both willing to try the experimenting you
have in mind and then go for it! If you find it enjoyable and
exciting, keep doing it.
In order to amp up the passion in your love relationship or
marriage, you might need to try something new, unexpected and
even a little "out there." Sometimes the usual can be passionate and
Look at the places where you and your mate come together and create
loving sparks and build on that. Have fun with this exploring and
Susie and Otto Collins are
Relationship Coaches and authors who help people create lives that
are filled with more passion, love and connection. For more tips on
turning up the heat in your love relationship, sign up for their
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