Cheating Spouse and How to Heal after Infidelity
or an Extramarital Affair
According to marriage and family counsellor Dr. Frank Gunzburg, when
you first learn that your spouse has had an affair, it's not only
devastating but it's a crazy cocktail of anger, denial, grief and a
complete loss of self-esteem.
If you have been injured by a cheating husband or cheating wife,
especially if the news has hit you within the last few months, the
pain you are feeling right now is probably unbearable.
But the truth is that you are not alone and there is hope for your
relationship. The pain you feel right now, as immediate as it is,
will not go on forever.
But you can't wait too long to start your healing process. Why you
ask? Because even though time can be a healer, time can also be a
breeding ground for hurtful words and actions. Time may build walls
that become too thick to tear down.
So you should start the healing process now. The problem is how.
Starting the healing process always starts with you and helping you
begin to sort out the full range of emotions that are tearing your
There is no excuse for infidelity. And if your relationship is going
to heal, the first thing you need to realize is that the affair is
not your fault. You did not force your partner to go outside your
relationship. They did it themself. Even if there are things you
could have done better in your relationship (and there almost
certainly are), this is not an excuse or a legitimate justification
for your spouse to do what he or she has done.
To start healing from an affair, you must realize this critical
truth. In addition, the cheater has to own what he or she has done
starting today and realize that the affair is completely his or her
A resource we highly recommend is a free email course by marriage
and family counsellor Dr. Frank Gunzburg PhD who has specialized in
helping couples heal their relationship from an affair since 1978.
|"Restoring Trust After The Extramarital Affair or Infidelity Might
Sound Like An Empty Promise Or Too Good To Be True, But It Is
Possible." - Dr. Frank Gunzburg
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Part 2: How to cope with initial trauma of the affair
Part 3: How to take control of your emotions and stay sane
Part 4: How to get the images out of your mind
Part 5: How to talk about the details of the affair
Part 6: Why the affair happened and how to prevent it from happening
Part 7: Steps for restoring the trust back into the relationship
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Dr. Frank Gunzburg is a licensed counselor in Maryland
and has been specializing is helping couples restore their
marriage for over 30 years. He is also the author of How to
Survive an Affair, a step-by-step healing system that can
help a couple repair their relationship after it has been
shattered from an affair.
If your relationship has been damaged by an affair and you
would like a step-by-step system for repairing your
relationship, then please visit Dr. Gunzburg's site for more
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